I’m a people watcher anyway. I love listening in on conversations, watching social cues – how people talk to each other, how they interact.
When I was traveling in South America, I spent many an hour sitting in plazas (a staple of all South American cities – even the smallest village), eating popcorn (how can it be so good? Oh, right — this is the birthplace of maize) and watching people.
But – introduce the subway. Subway, meet me. Me, meet subway. Good lord, it is a people watching bonanza. A match made in heaven.
I find that I watch couples a lot. There is probably a lot to read into there…. I didn’t have a lot of good models for couples that interact, who talk through their disagreements, who struggle together. Maybe there was a time that my parents did just that, but I never saw it. And that marriage ended. Maybe there was a time my dad did that with my stepmom, but I also never saw that. And that marriage ended.
So now, my models of a relationships are my friends, who, while they say they are still just figuring it out, sure seems more together than I can imagine. Or, maybe, just more than I have seen.
So, I watch couples.
Trying to learn.